I have depression.  I like to say that I had depression, but what’s the point of writing like this if not to be honest?  Thing is, it’s been easy to use the past tense these last few years.  I have vastly expanded my toolbox around the chemical deficiencies and emotional frameworks that make me someone… Read more »

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I’ve always been fascinated by how many things we learn that we neither realize we’re learning nor the “teacher” knows they are teaching us.  As we make our way in this life, we amass all of this information about how to be in the world and how interpersonal contracts work and what’s safe and unsafe… Read more »

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it takes a village

So, Hallmark tells us that we have to do something today. We’re bad people if we don’t, right? I’m wondering if maybe we can tell Hallmark to suck it…sort of. The problem with Mothers’ Day is the assumption that everyone has a mother for whom they feel great gratitude and to whom they are somehow… Read more »

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“Illness is the night-side of life, a more onerous citizenship. Everyone who is born holds dual citizenship, in the kingdom of the well and in the kingdom of the sick. Although we all prefer to use only the good passport, sooner or later each of us is obliged, at least for a spell, to identify… Read more »

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There have been many losses and important shifts in recent months that have kept impermanence and vulnerability very accessible.  I’ve been wondering about things and sitting in a good deal of uncertainty.  I’ve had to make some hard decisions.  Some of those decisions have led to even harder conversations…and I know this is only the… Read more »

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Incubate and manifest symptoms of the flu.  Lose a pound, maybe 2.  Drive from Caribou, Maine to San Diego, California.  Climb Mount Kilimanjaro.  These are just a few things a person could do with 6 days. As it turns out, a person could also make a more than respectable start on developing the requisite skills… Read more »

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A few weeks ago, a friend shared a story with me that was written by a mom who let her 3-year-old son pick her outfits for a week.  Obviously, this is very cute and I’m always a fan of giving my son a chance to see how the other half live, so to speak.  I… Read more »

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As I review today, I am overwhelmed by gratitude.  The day began with the delivery of confections and coffee to weary parents who slept in their cars last night so they could get into my son’s school. That was me two years ago. I’d do it again in a second.  Knowing what I know now?…I’d… Read more »

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When you declare that 2015 is going to be “The Year of Living Vulnerably”, everybody wants to know, “What does that mean?…’to live more vulnerably’?”     Certainly it means living in a way that invites more regular access to tenderness, but I’m finding tenderness in some surprising places. In these first weeks the place… Read more »

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